If it often hard to avoid the everyday stresses of life. In fact, being a mother can often add more unwanted stress and make dealing with your everyday tasks even more difficult. That is why proper stress management can play a big role in getting your health and your household back in your control. However, finding out what is the most effective stress management for you and your situation is just as important.
Since stress is something we all have to deal with and can often be good for us, proper stress management starts with prevention. We must learn how to identify the things in our lives that cause us unneeded stress and learn to either avoid them or add things in our lives to help us cope.
So let’s get into the things that cause us to stress first.
Identify the current stressors in your life
One of the first steps to managing your stress is identifying some of the things in your life that may be currently causing you unneeded stress. Don’t limit this list to everyday tasks such as your job or caring for others.
Other stresses such as emotions, thoughts, and keeping up with time management are also stressors. Try to dig deep and think of everything that could be stress both emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and physically.
Tip: Start a stress journal so you can keep a daily log of the things that keep you stressed. Identify, what caused you to stress, how you felt emotionally and physically, how you reacted, and what you did to feel better.
Make note of your current coping methods
The second way you will be able to effectively manage your stress is by choosing the best coping methods. However, in order to do this, you should first look at your current coping methods to see if you are using methods that may be unhealthy or unproductive to your progress.
Believe it or not but many of us may be using coping methods that can actually make the problem worse. These unhealthy coping methods can temporarily help with stress but hurt you in the long run:
- Sleeping too much
- Drinking excessively
- Stress eating
- Taking pills
- Taking problems out on others(lashing out)
- Compulsive spending
- Caffeine consumption
It is not healthy to use addiction as a way to cope with stress. So if your ways of dealing with stress are not contributing to the overall betterment of your emotional or physical well-being then it is definitely time to find some better coping skills.
However, the ways we cope with stress are unique to our own individual personality so what works for me may not work for you. Also, what works in one situation may not work in another.
Instead, it is best for you to try and focus on what makes you feel like you have the most power over your situation and relaxes you the most.
There are four healthy ways that are recommended for dealing with stress:
One you should first try to avoid whatever may be causing you stress.
Second, you must try to change the stressful situation.
Third, you must try to adjust to stressful situations.
and Lastly, you must try to accept the situation.
Stress Management Strategies
Since stress isn’t something every parent can really avoid and it isn’t something you can always change, acceptance may be your best choice. However, there is a lot of unneeded stress in your lives that you can and must eliminate.
So here is a list of some stress management strategies that may help you as a parent.
1.Know your limits. Learn not to take on too much because overdoing it is one of the top reasons that cause most of us parents to become overstressed.
2. Learn to take breaks. Everyone needs a little time to themselves but often times mommies don’t take the time they need out of guilt or just lack of time. However, taking even a 10 or 15-minute break to relax, meditate, pray, or even read, can be a useful way to relieve stress.
Remember, you are doing this as a needed recovery from stress and it isn’t something you should feel guilty about.
3. Avoid stressful people. Everyone has dealt with a stressful person in one aspect of their life or another but when that relationship becomes toxic to your well-being you may want to consider how you cope with it.
4. Take time to laugh. I love making people laugh. The main reason is that laughter has a way of making you forget about your problems.
Studies have even shown that laughing releases endorphin and it helps relieve tension in our faces. So put on some Netflix and have a good laugh with your family.
5. Exercise together. Exercise has been a proven way to effectively reduce stress. So why not use it as a way to also get in some healthy family time with the kids.
My daughter and I love to get in front of the television and do Just Dance together on the PS4. We get the benefit of exercise and we spend time doing something we love.
6. Find a support group. There is nothing more comforting than the support of someone who is able to understand what you are going through. By finding a support group of others in your similar situation, whether friends, family, or strangers, you will be able to share your feelings, get things off your chest, and get their constructive criticism and feedback.
As a mother, I understand all too well how stress can affect my entire family. When I am stressed, I am not in the right state of mind to care for my children.
So when your mother tells you to take care of yourself so you can be good health to care for your family, that includes your mental health. Besides who better to teach them how to properly deal with stress than the one they most look up to.
So take time for yourself and make sure you are in your best mental health. Get that stress in check so that you can have a stress-free life and home.
What is your favorite stress management strategy? I would love to hear your tips below!